When I got born again, my brother was particularly worried about one thing, being brain – washed.

He believed that women were so easily led because of their emotions and he was worried for me. Once someone can convince us with a few words, we are captured. With more and more sweet talking men of God, its becoming more and more rife, that women admire and seek to please their ‘ perfect’ Pastors.

Today, I would like to address something that is common to a lot of my sisters……idolisation of pastors.

Arrghhhhhh,  OMOBOLA, why?
It’s simple, because it’s part of the bible.

A common occurrence is that a lot of my sisters see their male pastors as next to GOD. Some of us even obey and fear them more than we fear GOD. Their verdict is final in our homes.
If you have been caught in this error, you need to stop now.

God made a man the head of his home. Whether the head is bald or has a funny nose , he is still the head and need to be treated as such.
Pastor’s visit to the house sets your husband jealous.
Pastor gets to eat the choicest meat when he comes visiting. He gets served with your special expensive plates.
You told hubby that you are managing his allocation, and because of this, he cannot have his usual drink, but pastor gets a bottle of wine whist your hubby has to ‘ manage’.

At his appearance, you are kneeling and standing, pouring with sweat because he is a man of GOD. Meanwhile, your husbands sentences do not reach the airspace in your house before you bounce it back….STOP NOW.
To Pastor,  you answer SIR, to your husband you say that stupid man….or you even say the devil is using him….Why won’t he be available to the devil.

2 Timothy 3:6-9 MSG
These are the kind of people who smooth-talk themselves into the homes of unstable and needy women and take advantage of them; women who, depressed by their sinfulness, take up with every new religious fad that calls itself “truth.” They get exploited every time and never really learn.

Yes, your husband is struggling to hold the family altar in the morning.  He does not even know how to read Psalms 23 after being born again for several years, he is still your head.  If you want to see improvement in his life,  you won’t get it by making him feel inadequate.

The bible is clear on this…..
Wives, submit yourself to your own husband.

Ephesians 5:22-23 KJV
Wives, submit yourselves unto your own husbands, as unto the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife, even as Christ is the head of the church: and he is the saviour of the body.

If you refuse to allow your husband occupy the position of honour in his own home, it’s not a wonder that you are not reigning as queen. He has no throne. Until he gets to that position, with your prayerful,  support, you can’t occupy that enviable position that you so desire.

If you bypass your husband and throw the decisions about the day to day choices in your home into the hands of the pastor,  you are living in sin. You are disregarding the authority in your home.
Harsh as this may sound, if you need to make amends, plus go ahead and do so now.

Tongue talking and firebrand, if your pastor is married, he belongs to his wife, not you.
Don’t help pastors wife polish her possessions whilst you treat yours like a piece of rubbish.
Your garden is overgrown because you are tending another woman’s garden.

You say, Omobola…..but there are godly pastors out there! I concur…
Let me suggest a way of screening who should get your attention, honour and submission as a man of God..HEBRWES 13:7,17
Appreciate your pastoral leaders WHO GAVE YOU THE WORD OF GOD. Take a good look at THE WAY THEY LIVE, and let their FAITHFULNESS  instruct you, as well as their TRUTHFULNESS . There should be a consistency that runs through us all. For Jesus doesn’t change—yesterday, today, tomorrow, he’s always totally himself. Be responsive to your pastoral leaders. Listen to their counsel. They are ALERT to the condition of your LIVES AND WORK UNDER GOD’S  STRICT SUPERVISION .
Hebrews 13:7‭-‬8‭, ‬17 MSG

The instruction to submit is targeted at YOUR OWN HUSBAND…..God has a reason for being specific. If you have need to submit to any other man, ask yourself,  do they meet the criteria in Hebrews 13?

Small or big.
Fluent or stuttering,
Smart or rough….
Word loaded or newly saved…..your husband is the head of your home…RESPECT, HONOUR AND CHERISH HIM…..STOP watering another woman’s garden whilst yours die of drought!
Pastors are there to support and instruct you in godly standards, they are not meant to be worshipped in your home…Stop emotional roller coaster with another woman’s husband, whether he be MAN OF GOD OR by another title…..most unsuspecting women have drowned into physical and adultery by day dreaming about a PERFECT PASTOR…..who is busy enjoying the cheap attention at the expense of his own home and eternity.



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